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Reconcile is a word I like for various reasons.

First, for its etymology.

From Latin reconciliare to bring together again, from re- + conciliare make friendly, conciliate.

It refers to situations and feelings that after a long or short period of conflict are again united. Not necessarily with the same shape and meaning but probably with a strongest sense of belonging.

Second, for the use we do of it every day.

Without realising it, every day we reconcile at home with the family. We reconcile at work with colleagues. We reconcile with friends. Above all, we reconcile with ourselves. With every breath.

The act of reconciling is present and necessary in our everyday life. But we do not name it. Most of the time we probably do not notice it.

It is present and so invisible at the same time.

Finally, for the paradox the word contains.

When we pronounce the word loudly or we read it then it acquires its strength. It regains its power. It is glorified.

At that very same moment, paradoxically, most of us become completely still. The same people who act in its name every day without knowing it find the word too difficult to understand, too difficult to be put in practice.

We feel it does not pertain to us.

But it does.

It does pertain to us.

The act to bring together conflicting ideals, feelings and behaviours again.

The result might be surprising.


What does 'reconciliation' mean to you? Tell us in the comments below...


Marta Bastianini Badano is a lawyer, foreign language teacher, yoga enthusiast and nature lover. Her work in the private sector was followed by work on human rights issues in an international context. She enjoys to listen to people's stories, to write, and to read and reread quality picture books. She grew up by the sea in Italy. She lives in London.

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